a note from the author
Why I built Death Dibs
I've spent the last decade as a Medicolegal Death Investigator, the person
responsible for documenting the circumstances of unexpected deaths. While
performing my duties I've stood in a lot of living rooms with families who
were suddenly tasked with making urgent decisions, arguing about things
nobody had ever written down: who's paying for the funeral, whether Dad
wanted to be buried or cremated, what funeral home to use…
All too often I've witnessed people stress over these important decisions,
frantically searching for documents in a cluttered desk, unable to reach the
one person in the middle of the night who was supposed to be in charge of
everything, all while they should be grieving with their loved ones. Prior
planning could have avoided the chaos and kept everyone on the same page
during those first few critical hours.
Then, in the days and weeks following someone's death, there are inevitably
conflicts surrounding heirlooms. The grieving period is not the time to be
arguing over who gets what. Like making funeral arrangements, those
conversations are so much easier to have while everyone's still sitting
around the table, not standing over a casket. These conflicts are something
I have experienced both personally and professionally. I urge all of my
family and friends to have these difficult discussions ahead of time, and I
hope this app can help your family be prepared for the inevitable, too.
— Brandon Mailand, D-ABMDI